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Love truly knows no bounds inThe Sims 4, as even the mysterious and elusive Grim Reaper is not immune to the piercing arrow of Cupid. While it may seem like an unconventional pursuit, a romantic relationship with the series' enigmatic servant of death can unlock new interactions and intriguing storytelling possibilities for your Sim.
From ensuring a successful and efficient otherworldly summoning, to dropping a few flirtatious pickup lines, and, with the assistance of cheats, even going so far as marriage, we’ll walk you through all the essential steps to kindle an undying romance with the Grim Reaper.
Updated On June 06, 2025, By Helen Ashcroft:With the release of Life & Death, Sims can now get closer to Grim than ever before, without the use of cheats. We’ve updated this guide to reflect the new mechanics of romancing Grim within the game and highlight those which you’ll still need to cheat a little to manage.
How To Summon The Grim Reaper
There are acouple of different ways to summon Grimsince the release of Life & Death, and the base game update that came with it. From the traditional to the new, here are the ways you can summon Grim.
The Demise Of A Sim
The death of a Simwill immediately attract the presence of the Grim Reaper, who will promptly appear from a cloud of smoke before whisking the recently deceased away into the afterlife.
Previously,Grim would vanish quickly, but for those playing with Life & Death in particular, new interactions surrounding pleading, challenging, and befriending him mean thathe sticks around a little longer now.
However, this method of summoning does require you to sacrifice a Sim, and now there areother less murder-based waysto befriend death.
The Grimophone
If you took part in theReaper Rewards eventReaper Rewards event, you should have access to theGrimophone. It’s an easy stage reward which works as a music player and Grim summoner.
If you missed or struggled with the event,this mod from Tarruviunlocks all the rewards in your game.
The old-school-styled item has an option toSummon the Grim Reaper,which can be used to instantly call Grim to your lot. He willhang around outsidefor a while, and you’ll need togo and speak to himto invite him inside. This action has acooldownof approximatelytwo Sim days.
Join The Reaper Career
You can also get to know Grim quickly byjoining the Reaper Career. Those with Life & Death can join this new job track to work alongside Grim in theHeadless Quarters.
You’ll have ample opportunity totalk to Grim and build up a relationship with himin thisfully active career.
How To Become Friends With The Grim Reaper
When it comes to pursuing a romantic relationship with the Grim Reaper, it’s best tobeginby first establishing a friendshipwith him,just like you would with any other Sim.
After summoning him or locating him in his office,select the Grim Reaper, choose any topic in theFriendlycategory, andmaintain a pleasant conversation with him.
The Grim Reapermay unexpectedly vanishduring a conversation with your Sim. If this happens, don’t worry. You’llbe able to get him back again soon.
Befriending the Grim Reaper will unlock the’Hello, Darkness, My Old Chum' achievement.
You can also communicate with the Grim Reaper through yourSim’s phone and computeronce you’ve got him on yourrelationship tab.
How To Romance The Grim Reaper
Once your Sim has engaged in enough friendly conversations with the Grim Reaper,they will gain access to romantic conversation options, such as flirting, which can berepeatedly selected to fill up the Romance meter.
As you get further up the meter,most romance options will be unlockedfor you. It justtakes a little persistenceas Grim isn’t always the easiest to romance, especially if you haveLovestruck.
How To Woohoo With The Grim Reaper
Since Life & Death’s release, you can nowwoohoo with the Grim Reaper as a default option.All you need to do is keep pushing up that romance meter until the option appears.
There areno cheats requiredfor this, but sometimes you need torepeat the selectiontwo or three times before it happens.
The option towoohoo with Grimis available for everyone, as it isbase game compatible.
How To Have A Baby With The Grim Reaper
If you haveLife & Death, then you’ll get the extra option to’Try For Baby' with Grim.This comes up as a regular option, just as it would with any other Sim. All the mechanics are the same, andno cheats are required.
If you have Grim’s baby they will grow up with a small scythe birthmark under their left ear and the Grimborn trait.
Just be aware that Grim is the very definition of a hands-off parent as by default, youcannot add him to your household.He will become yourpartner,be akeyholder,and you can even add him as aroommate, but he willnot allow himself to be controlled directly.
How To Become Roommates With The Grim Reaper
When your relationship is high enough, you canask Grim to be your roommate.This is theclosest you’ll get to him being a household member without using cheats.He willrequire an extra bed, even if he doesn’t use it and just sleeps in yours, and he willpay you rent.
This uses theregular roommate system,so you can expect him to wander in and out of the house, do chores, pay rent, and interact with household members. However, he willnot be directly controllable.
How To Marry And Move In With The Grim Reaper
Due to the Grim Reaper’s unique role within The Sims 4, marrying or adding the Servant of Death to your household is stillimpossible without cheats.
Before being able to marry the Grim Reaper,you must first include him in your Sim’s family.As there is no vanilla way of accomplishing this,you must open up the cheat menu.
To access cheats, pressCTRL + SHIFT + Cto bring up atext box in the top leftcorner of the screen. Into this, enter “testingcheats on” to enable cheats. You should see aconfirmation message in the text boxif you’re successful.
Once activated, hover your cursor above the Grim Reaper andshift click to be given the option to add him to your Sim’s family. The option to marry the Grim Reaper will be available after completing this final step.
However, it should be noted thatthis is glitchy,as Grim is not designed to be a controllable character. He willmostly function as a regular Simonce added to the household, but yourrelationship with him can sometimes be screwed up.For example, I have a Sim who was Grim’s partner, but once he was added to the household, they couldn’t marry, since the game thought she was already married, even though she is just Grim’s partner, mother of his child, and has no other romantic interests.
You may find it is better to have Grim as a roommate and let him be the free spirit he desires.
